HOW TO “SWING” YOUR MOOD
Self-Help Tips for “Moody” Persons Like Me
Blog by Veteran Vikram Karve
HOW TO “SWING” YOUR MOOD
Are you a moody person…?
Do you have “mood swings”…?
Do you want to be always in a “good mood”…?
I constantly try to be in a “good mood”.
Whenever I am in a bad mood — I try to swing my mood to a good mood.
The trick is to use your thoughts to drive your feelings and swing your moods.
It is easier said that done — but I keep trying my best.
Let me share my Self Help for Moody Persons “Mantra” with you.
HOW TO BE IN A GOOD “MOOD”
Musings By Vikram Karve
I am a “moody” person.
That is my nature.
Since I am a “moody person” — I have “mood swings”.
Owing to my “mood swings” — I am prone to negative emotions like anger and depression — and worse — I wear my emotions on my sleeve — so everyone can see my “mood”.
Hence — whenever I start feeling depressed, angry or experience negative emotions — I try to “swing” my mood to the positive side.
Mostly I succeed — but — on a few occasions — I am not so successful in “swinging” my mood totally — but then — I try my best to get into a “good mood”.
Before I “pontificate” on how to “swing” your mood — let me tell you a bit about the “Emotion — Mood — Temperament” continuum — and why it is important for you to remain in a “good mood”.
The “EMOTION” — “MOOD” — “TEMPERAMENT” Continuum
EMOTION is a response to a “stimulus” (or situation).
This “stimulus” can be either external (outside you) or internal (inside you).
MOOD is a long duration feeling as compared to emotion.
Emotions come and go — but Mood persists.
Emotion remains as long as the trigger (stimulus) remains.
But Mood remains for some time — even after the stimulus goes away.
And — sometimes — mood may not need a specific stimulus.
When Mood persists for a long period it becomes Temperament.
“Temperament” is “Long Term Mood”
Emotion comes First whenever you are in Danger — leading to impulsive action to save you from that danger
(fight or flight response)
Otherwise — normally:
Thought comes First — and then — Emotion Follows.
That is the desired rational way.
THOUGHT MANAGEMENT IS THE KEY
It is desirable that Thought precedes Emotion.
If you can manage your THOUGHTS — you can manage your EMOTIONS — and consequently — you will be able to manage your MOOD and TEMPERAMENT.
Hence — if you can control your thoughts — you can manage your moods.
This may be easy for you — but for a “moody” person like me — this is easier said than done.
DO FEELINGS DRIVE YOUR THOUGHTS…?
Thoughts play a very important role in your life — whereas your feelings can make or break you — and also affect the lives of others around you.
We let our Attitudes or Feelings hold sway over our lives — rather than let our Thoughts govern our lives.
Hence — your Feelings (Emotions) control your thoughts (and your life).
NEVER LET YOUR FEELINGS DRIVE YOUR THOUGHTS
You let your Feelings drive your Thoughts.
You do not realize that Thoughts drive Actions — and — Actions produce Results.
These Results produce more Feelings.
And these Feelings — in turn — drive your Thoughts.
This leads to a “vicious circle” — which may ultimately lead to loss of self-control.
If you start off with negative feelings — this “vicious circle” will happen:
“Feelings –> Thoughts –> Actions –> Results –> Feelings –> Thoughts –>…”
This “vicious circle” can spiral into depression or anger.
YOU CANNOT CONTROL YOUR FEELINGS
Feelings are not totally controllable — especially for a “moody” person like me.
Many times — Feelings are produced by external circumstances beyond your control.
If Negative Feelings are allowed to drive your Thoughts and Actions — then Undesirable Results may emanate.
These Undesirable Results in turn produce further not-so-good Feelings — and — the vicious cycle continues.
This is true for any unpleasant or negative Feelings — like anger, envy, worry, disgust or hatred — which tend to drive our Thoughts and Actions — and quickly take charge of our lives.
An analysis of other options indicates that both Actions and Results are not suitable alternative drivers — since they also are not totally controllable — and will not always be pleasing.
The best solution is to establish “THOUGHT” as the driver — because it is controllable — and — we can get good Results.
LET THOUGHTS DRIVE YOUR FEELINGS
Your Thoughts are in your control.
You you can choose what you want to think about — hence you have full control on your thoughts.
Moreover — there is a matter of choice.
It is very much in our control to think good and interesting thoughts.
The happiest persons are those who thinks the most interesting and good thoughts.
The human mind cannot totally prevent poor quality thoughts from arising — but you can choose whether or not to dwell on them.
You can move your mind from dwelling on poor quality thoughts by selecting alternative beneficial or pleasant thoughts to focus on.
Choosing to be driven by thoughts — and — then controlling those thoughts — will get you the best possible results.
Positive thoughts lead to good performance (right actions) — which yields desirable results — which in turn produces good feelings.
Good feelings are conducive to better thoughts.
And — progressively — this positively reinforcing cycle facilitates a high degree of self-control — and creates an overall feeling of happiness.
When good thoughts are combined with good potential — the results can be remarkable.
Thus — the very basis of self-control is:
1. Refuse to allow our feelings to control our responses.
2. Instead — dwell on good, pleasant, joy-producing positive thoughts.
Develop and apply your skill to control your thoughts.
Certain NLP techniques like Swish Pattern are highly effective in achieving this.
By “Positive Thinking” you can gain mastery over controlling your thoughts and thereby letting your thoughts govern your lives.
HOW TO BE IN A GOOD MOOD — in a Nutshell
Try this positive reinforcing cycle to be in a good mood:
1. “Good Thoughts” will make you “Feel Good”.
2. “Feel Good” will generate “Positive Feelings”.
3. “Positive Feelings” will make you perform “Good Actions”.
4. “Good Actions” will produce “Good Results”.
5. “Good Results” in turn will produce “Good Thoughts”.
And — this positive reinforcing spiral will keep you in a good mood.
That is the key to a happy and healthy life.
You can take my word for it.
Let me end with a quote from the famous Stoic philosopher Epictetus:
Some things are under our control — others are not.
Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle:
Some things are within our control — and some things are not.
It is only after you have faced up to this fundamental rule — and learned to distinguish between what you can control and you cannot control — that inner tranquility and outer effectiveness become possible.
You must be able to distinguish between things you can control and things you cannot control.
1. Thinking “interesting thoughts” is fully within your control.
2. On the other hand — your feelings may be dependent on things beyond your control.
This is the mantra for self-control of your mood.
DON’T LET YOUR FEELINGS DRIVE YOUR THOUGHTS
Hence — don’t let your feelings drive your thoughts.
But — take control of your thoughts and try to ensure that your thoughts drive your feelings.
And — you can “swing” your mood by thinking happy interesting thoughts.
You can experiment on this technique of of using thoughts to create positive moods:
1. Happy Thoughts will put you in a “feel good” mood.
2. Interesting Thoughts will put you in a “creative mood”.
3. Inspiring Thoughts will put you in an “optimistic mood”.
4. Romantic Thoughts will put you in a “romantic mood”.
5. Erotic Thoughts will put you in a “amorous mood”.
etc. etc. etc.
Let your imagination run wild to create good moods.
The moment you start feeling any negative emotion — don’t let your feelings take charge of your mind and spoil your mood.
Instead — immediately start thinking good thoughts and swing your mood to a happy and positive one.
I did this quite effectively during my Navy days.
Whenever my boss started shouting at me — I used to “switch off” and stop paying attention to what he was saying — and start thinking interesting thoughts — romantic, erotic, food thoughts etc. — and keep myself in a good mood despite the hollering of my boss.
Those days — I used to call it “overhead transmission”.
Since my mind was absorbed in lovely thoughts — whatever bullshit my boss was saying did not enter my mind — but would fly away above my head (overhead transmission).
Sometimes — my “interesting” thoughts would bring a smile on my face
(since I ensured that my thoughts controlled my emotions and feelings)
On seeing me smiling and in a happy mood — despite his angry hollering — my boss would get even more livid — and he would start yelling at me even more furiously — and in the end — it was my boss who would be in a bad mood — whereas — I remained in a good mood.
Once — during my Naval Dockyard Days — the Admiral Superintendent (ASD) told me that my boss (a Commodore) — my boss was complaining to the Admiral that working with me was giving him high Blood Pressure (High BP)
I jokingly said to the Admiral:
“Sir — isn’t it better that he gets High BP rather than me…?”
Dear Reader — I had served with the Admiral when he was a Commander and I was a young officer.
The Admiral knew me very well (and my independent style of working).
The wise Admiral kept me in the same job — despite repeated pleas by my boss to have me moved out.
Maybe — the Admiral was enjoying seeing my boss going crazy.
Or — maybe — he was trying to convey a lesson indirectly to my boss that “micro-managing” did not work in the Naval Dockyard — and Managers must be left “index” (independent) to do their jobs.
Cheers — Dear Reader.
Do keep your emotions in check by thinking interesting thoughts.
I wish that you always be in a good mood — and may you have a happy, optimistic and calm temperament.
Remember — your “mood” is in your “mind”.
If you learn to control your thoughts — you can gain mastery over your moods.
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Link to my source blog post in my Blog Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2016/12/how-to-swing-your-moods.html
Revised Version of my Article LET THOUGHTS DRIVE YOUR FEELINGS written by me around 30 years ago in early 1990 and Posted Online Earlier by me Vikram Karve in my blog at urls: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2009/06/monday-morning-meditation.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2012/06/types-of-human-feelings-emotion-mood.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2011/09/feel-good-by-positive-thinking-key-to.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2015/10/self-help-mantra-for-moody-persons.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/06/mood-swings-how-to-control-your-mood.html and https://karve.wordpress.com/2020/11/14/how-to-be-in-a-good-mood/ and https://karve.wordpress.com/2020/08/29/how-to-swing-your-mood/ and https://karve.wordpress.com/2021/09/21/mantra-for-moody-persons/ and https://karve.wordpress.com/2022/01/29/self-help-for-moody-persons/ etc
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