How to boost your “Self Esteem”
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HOW TO BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
Motivational Blog By Vikram Karve
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SELF ESTEEM
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Self-Esteem is much more than Self-Confidence.
The word “esteem” is derived from the Latin word aestimare which means “to put a value on”.
Thus — your “Self Esteem” is the “value you put on yourself”.
Your self-esteem is your conviction that you are uniquely valuable.
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INDICATORS OF SELF-ESTEEM
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When you have High Self-Esteem — you will have the capacity to live creatively — stand by your values, beliefs and principles — and you will have the competence to accomplish something vital to your individuality.
Is it possible to assess self-esteem…?
How do you recognize whether a person has self-esteem…?
It is easy.
Persons with High Self-Esteem do not need to prove themselves.
Yes — if you have high self-esteem — you do not feel the need to prove yourself to the outside world — you do not need to prove yourself to others.
Conversely:
Persons with Low Self-Esteem will be observed trying to prove themselves.
People with low self-esteem — they boast — they put others down — they show off — drop names — speak excessively — and they always talk about their themselves and try to hog the conversation — they keep telling you about their achievements and display snobbish behaviour.
People with low self-esteem are extremely self-conscious about their appearance — and — they desperately fish for compliments.
People with low self-esteem are unduly concerned about what other people think about them.
They are desperate to create a good impression.
They may talk in an imperative tone of voice — they try to pull rank and emphasize their authority and show-off their status, position or wealth — they act in a boastful manner — they always seem “keyed up” and move around in an excited manner as if in a perpetual hurry “to get the job done” and try to “dominate” others.
Look around your workplace and among your friends.
If you observe someone behaving in this way — be sure that he/she has low self-esteem.
Close your eyes and recall some of your own interactions in the recent past — professional and social — at work and with your friends.
Imagine as if you have gone outside your body — and you are watching yourself from the outside as you interact and converse with others.
Reflect and Introspect:
Did you display any indicators of low self-esteem…?
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Remember :
An important internal indicator of low self-esteem is that you feel excessively self-conscious — as you try to “prove yourself” to others around you — wondering what they think about you — and this sometimes causes you to feel internally stressed-out.
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HIGH SELF-ESTEEM
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You can recognize individuals with high self-esteem by their body language.
When they speak to you — they make good eye contact — and they are relaxed, calm, measured in movement — yet firm and decisive.
A person with good self-esteem will exhibit a quiet confidence.
Also, persons with high self-esteem will not fish for compliments.
However — if you do compliment them — they will calmly say “Thank You” — and accept your compliment with politeness and humility.
They are honest, humble and modest — and are genuinely interested in other people and their achievements.
They do not bother about external recognition — as they have confidence in their own abilities.
Persons with high self esteem are always genuine and never “fake it”.
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The bedrock of self-esteem is self-acceptance.
If you have high self-esteem — you will accept yourself as you are — and you will not indulge in “image management”.
Hence — you will never be afraid of being “found out” — since you will always project what you actually are — since you don’t have to “prove yourself” to others.
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LOW SELF-ESTEEM
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People with low self-esteem are always desperate to “prove themselves” to the outside world and impress others.
Such persons with low self-esteem often fall prey to “image management” techniques.
Since low self-esteem persons try to project an exaggerated or contrived (fake) image of themselves — they constantly live under the fear of being found out.
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HOW TO ENHANCE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
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Do you want to enhance your self-esteem…?
It is simple.
Start liking yourself.
First — accept yourself as you are.
And then — learn to like yourself.
Don’t bother about proving yourself to others.
Take pride in your individuality.
Be your own hero.
Start enjoying yourself — be proud of yourself — and when you feel you have done something good — don’t seek praise from others — but reward yourself for what you do — and praise yourself.
Remember to do this in all aspects of your life — at work and in your personal life as well.
Continual self-evaluation, self-acceptance and self-reward will produce a paradigm shift in your behaviour from being other-directed to being inner-directed.
As you build up your self-esteem — you will develop a strong sense of self.
You will start liking yourself — and you will start believing in yourself.
On the other hand — if you do not learn to reinforce yourself — and if you succumb to the temptations of “image management” to seek approval of others and get obsessed with “proving yourself” — you may slip and fall into the downward spiral of low self-esteem.
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I will end by paraphrasing a quote from Samuel Butler:
The advantage of doing your praising for yourself is that you can lay it on so thick and exactly in the right places.
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Did you like my blog on SELF-ESTEEM…?
Do Read My Blog on SELF CONFIDENCE
URL: https://medium.com/@vikramkarve/how-to-check-your-confidence-level-7-tests-9103acf8fda8
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Link to my source blog post in my Blog Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2017/06/how-to-build-self-esteem.html
This is a consolidated revised and abridged repost of my self-help articles including the following posted online by me earlier at urls: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2012/05/how-to-enhance-your-self-esteem-accept.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2011/12/self-esteem-how-to-build-your-self.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/03/how-to-build-self-esteem.html and https://karve.wordpress.com/2020/08/05/what-is-self-esteem-2/ and https://karve.wordpress.com/2021/02/16/what-is-the-meaning-of-self-esteem/ and https://karve.wordpress.com/2021/12/09/22864/ and https://karve.wordpress.com/2024/10/22/self-confidence-and-self-esteem/ etc
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