Friendship
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TYPES OF FRIENDSHIP
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TYPES OF FRIENDSHIP
BENEFICIAL FRIENDSHIP AND HARMFUL FRIENDSHIP
Philosophical Musings By Vikram Karve
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I invest in books.
Just like some other investments — where one invests and forgets about it for years — sometimes I buy a book — and I may not read it for years.
Whenever I buy a book — I always write the date and place of purchase.
This morning while I was cleaning my bookcase — I came across a book titled A Source Book in Chinese Philosophy
I had picked up this book on 26 Jan 2003 at the annual Strand Book Fair at Churchgate in Mumbai.
Sometime ago — I opened a random page — and here is the gem of ancient wisdom that I read about various Types of Friendship:
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SIX KINDS OF FRIENDSHIP
3 BENEFICIAL and 3 HARMFUL
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Confucius said:
There are:
Three kinds of Friendship which are Beneficial
and
Three kinds of Friendship which are Harmful
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THREE TYPES OF BENEFICIAL FRIENDSHIPS
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1. Friendship with the Upright
2. Friendship with the Truthful
3. Friendship with the well-informed
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These three types of friendship are BENEFICIAL
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THREE TYPES OF HARMFUL FRIENDSHIPS
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1. Friendship with those who “flatter” — especially sycophants and “yes-men” who will lead you up the garden path.
2. Friendship with those who are “meek” — they are so “weak” that they compromise with their principles.
3. Friendship with those who “talk cleverly” — these smooth talkers will not be sincere to you.
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These three types of friendship are HARMFUL
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So — Dear Reader — while selecting your friends — bear in mind the above wisdom from the analects of Confucius — and choose your friends with care.
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Invest in Beneficial Friendships and make good friends
and
Avoid Harmful Friendships with those who can cause you harm
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Well — I always believe that it is best to have a philosophical approach to life.
So — I am going to read this book of ancient wisdom.
And — from time to time — I will share some gems of ancient wisdom from this book with you in my blog.
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SOCIAL MEDIA FRIENDSHIPS
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Nowadays — most of our friends are online friends on the Social Media.
Online friendships increased during the distressing COVID Pandemic Days — when it is not possible to physically meet friends as most of us had to stay at home due to lockdowns, curfews, and COVID precautions which made us stay-at-home most of the time.
Later — many online social media friends became offline real-life friends too — but we still make many friendships on social media.
Dear Reader — have a look at your online social media friends — and — apply the six friendship yardsticks — and — evaluate for yourself — which are beneficial — and which are harmful.
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Choose your friends wisely — online and offline.
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VIKRAM KARVE
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Link to my original post in my Blog Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2016/03/types-of-friendship-beneficial-friends.html
NB: This is a revised repost of my earlier blog posts in my blog at urls: https://karve.wordpress.com/2019/08/04/types-of-friendship/ and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2010/10/friendship.html and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/01/the-art-of-friendship.html and https://karve.wordpress.com/2021/04/24/types-of-friendship-2/ and https://karve.wordpress.com/2020/07/30/friendship-day-post-types-of-friendship/ and https://karve.wordpress.com/2020/02/02/types-of-friendship-good-and-bad/ etc.
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